In this post I mentioned the fact that Deb Hannah’s daughter framed her time in college by the events surrounding her troubled adoptive siblings. She started college at the peak of a family crisis, and graduated the day after the last of five troubled children left the family. The fact that Deb’s healthy children’s lives were so affected by the unhealthy children is one of... more

I am near the end of a series of posts discussing why it is we assume this parental responsibility. What is it we are to learn from this journey? I began by discussing God’s command to Ezekiel in the Old Testament. God wanted Ezekiel to be a prophet among the Israelites, and Ezekiel was to use as his measure of success the fact that he was doing what God told him to do—not the result of his efforts to impact the Israelites.

I asked my Bible scholar daughter, Stephanie,... more

I am in Colorado again this week, enjoying some time with my parents. But I put together most of this series of posts while traveling out here last weekend. I read some of Deb Hannah's comments to my husband as he was driving and I was typing. I couldn't read them without filling up with emotion, as my own wounds are still quite fresh.

Here is more of what Deborah Hannah, author of An Unlit Path, has to say about our job as parents in healing from the wounds of lost hopes and... more

I have been discussing the purpose of our parenting. Is our “job” to only parent children who provide pleasure and reciprocity in our life, or is it to serve the least, the last and the lost? Are we wrong to want and/or expect something positive to come back our way? Maybe not wrong, but human …

Deb Hannah sent me an email that started me thinking about this. She said:

I know that Beth is doing wonderfully and your relationship is everything you want it to be, and in some ways that can validate us as parents.... more

Once again I am going to warn you that I will be spilling the beans on Deb Hannah’s book, so if you’d rather wait to read this, you’ve been warned!

Deb and her husband Joe adopted five children after having given birth to four. The five adoptees arrived as two sibling groups—three and two. If you go to Deb’s website, you see a picture... more

As I mentioned in a few previous blogs, I am in regular communication these days with Deborah Hannah, author of An Unlit Path. I want to share with you some of our recent conversations. I have been struggling with how to present this. I want to just start typing and let it flow from my fingertips, but there are a couple of things stopping me.

First, I hesitate to “spill the beans” on her book, but I suspect I might end up doing just that. So if you want to read the book before you continue to read... more

I talked to a mom this morning who has already signed up for ATN’s conference this August. I am really getting excited about this event, for many reasons. But probably the most significant reason is how energized everyone feels when they are actually in the physical proximity of other parents who are leading parallel lives. As long as I have been living this life, and as stress-free as my parenting existence is now, with no challenging kids... more

Last October I received a book in the mail, and because I had just moved for the second time that year, and because my life was upside down, I put the book on a shelf and forgot about it. That is, until Cindy Bodie blogged about it and I just had to read it. So I did, and then I blogged about it.

The book is An Unlit Path by Deborah Hannah. Those of you interested... more

I have nothing but the utmost respect for Nancy Thomas and the work she does for and on behalf of troubled children and their families. I thought you might enjoy hearing some of Nancy's perspectives about our lives in the trenches.

Setting the tone for this interview, what is the first thing you want to tell the readers about who you are and what you do?

I am a mom, that is my highest title. I also coach, support and encourage other parents who live with emotionally disturbed... more

I spent about 4 hours last night and this morning setting up a digital photo frame I purchased for my mom for Mother’s Day. (It’s a safe bet she’s not reading my blog regularly… turning on the computer can still be a bit of a challenge for her on some days…) I have pictures loaded and I am going to send it “ready to plug in and play”. I can add more pictures using my laptop or digital memory cards when we visit in the future. This picture of her is one of them that I put in the digital frame.

Mother’s Day is, as I mentioned previously,... more