I am finally trying to get back in the saddle, so to speak. I will hopefully resume my commentary on the “paradigm shift” in attachment therapy as defined by ATTACh and their White Paper… but not until next week. I just thought I would raise my head today and try and resume some normalcy. Not an easy feat at this point… I am still surrounded by boxes, the dishwasher isn’t working and will be replaced on Monday, and Kyle and Maria arrive tonight.

I know I sound like a broken record, but man, am I tired.

At any... more

I can’t remember how old I was when I told my last lie to my parents, but I was somewhere around Beth’s age… between 7 and 10. I have been a dog lover for my entire life. I had told my parents I wanted to be a veterinarian when I was five years old. So naturally, when my parents bought my grandparents a tiny poodle puppy, I was thrilled. The pup didn’t weigh more than a pound or two.

I wanted to hold it and play with it all the time. I often sat on a couch in the family room that was more like a day bed than a couch. My mom didn’t want me to hold... more

One of the toughest parts the parents of attachment-challenged children (or any child with any kind of “issues”, for that matter) face is teasing out what is age-and-stage behavior, what is because of the child’s “issues”, and what is choice/genetics/whatever.

As I have mentioned before, I have a pretty skewed reference for what is “normal” with respect to many childhood behaviors. I have two motivated, well-attached, non-traumatized and academically successful birth children; one aggressive and overtly angry adoptee; one... more