Comments on: Aging athletes and tired parents … what do we have in common? http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do Addresses challenges faced by parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder and provides news and support. Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:16:58 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: NCOZADD@aol.com http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1299 NCOZADD@aol.com Wed, 19 Sep 2007 18:51:25 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1299 I read mater's "questions".... they were highly combative, not thought-provoking.<br /> <br /> As to being a "cheerleader" for Nancy.... my husband and I parent 4 children, two of them with special needs, one of whom is a male version of her Amy, only more violent.<br /> <br /> Being in the trenches with children like ours is more difficult than many realize, and each is very unique. Even parents of other attachment-challenged children cannot always understand the nightmare. What Nancy is doing is unspeakably hard work, both within her own family and for ATN, often without recognition or appreciation, both of which she abundantly deserves.<br /> <br /> We all deserve to have cheerleaders! I read mater’s “questions”…. they were highly combative, not thought-provoking.

As to being a “cheerleader” for Nancy…. my husband and I parent 4 children, two of them with special needs, one of whom is a male version of her Amy, only more violent.

Being in the trenches with children like ours is more difficult than many realize, and each is very unique. Even parents of other attachment-challenged children cannot always understand the nightmare. What Nancy is doing is unspeakably hard work, both within her own family and for ATN, often without recognition or appreciation, both of which she abundantly deserves.

We all deserve to have cheerleaders!

]]> By: Sunbonnet Sue http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1298 Sunbonnet Sue Wed, 19 Sep 2007 15:28:36 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1298 Pretty funny Nonny. My comments often fall into the "cheerleader" category. Not because it is expected. Not just for Nancy. <br /> <br /> Parenting is difficult, with few opportunities for recognition. What Nancy is doing is very cutting edge. Few comprehend what exactly she is dealing with. Not only does she receive little encouragement, she fields copious condemnation for her efforts. Her mistakes and misjudgments are skewered mercilessly. Painfully. <br /> <br /> Dissent is fine. Difference of opinion is great. Thought provoking comments are completely necessary. Respectful behavior isn't too much to ask for, is it? Pretty funny Nonny. My comments often fall into the “cheerleader” category. Not because it is expected. Not just for Nancy.

Parenting is difficult, with few opportunities for recognition. What Nancy is doing is very cutting edge. Few comprehend what exactly she is dealing with. Not only does she receive little encouragement, she fields copious condemnation for her efforts. Her mistakes and misjudgments are skewered mercilessly. Painfully.

Dissent is fine. Difference of opinion is great. Thought provoking comments are completely necessary. Respectful behavior isn’t too much to ask for, is it?

]]> By: AdoptionBlogs Editor http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1297 AdoptionBlogs Editor Wed, 19 Sep 2007 13:27:10 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1297 I'm very sorry you feel that way, Nonny. <br /> <br /> Contrary to what you may believe, I do not expect all readers to be cheerleaders and I let a lot of negative comments go in the interest of provoking thought and widening perspectives.<br /> <br /> What I will NOT tolerate is harassment of bloggers OR readers trying to pry additional personal information from bloggers when that information is clearly none of their business and could endanger the blogger or their children.<br /> <br /> I’m very sorry you feel that way, Nonny.

Contrary to what you may believe, I do not expect all readers to be cheerleaders and I let a lot of negative comments go in the interest of provoking thought and widening perspectives.

What I will NOT tolerate is harassment of bloggers OR readers trying to pry additional personal information from bloggers when that information is clearly none of their business and could endanger the blogger or their children.

]]> By: nonny http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1296 nonny Wed, 19 Sep 2007 12:12:13 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1296 I wish Mater's comments had not been removed. While sometimes controversial, I find them thought-provoking and a helpful perspective to the constant "cheerleading" the author and editor(s)seem to expect from this blog's readers. I wish Mater’s comments had not been removed. While sometimes controversial, I find them thought-provoking and a helpful perspective to the constant “cheerleading” the author and editor(s)seem to expect from this blog’s readers.

]]> By: sltgjt http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1295 sltgjt Tue, 18 Sep 2007 19:50:03 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1295 I completely agree to home school her if the school will not go along with your rules. I think you are doing a great job with her. I look forward to reading your blogs daily. I completely agree to home school her if the school will not go along with your rules. I think you are doing a great job with her. I look forward to reading your blogs daily.

]]> By: AdoptionBlogs Editor http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1294 AdoptionBlogs Editor Tue, 18 Sep 2007 19:02:56 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1294 I've stated this before and will say it again - I will delete any comments that I feel are inappropriate or combative. I have removed Mater's comments on this blog and others because I do not feel they were contributing to the topic in a constructive manner.<br /> I’ve stated this before and will say it again – I will delete any comments that I feel are inappropriate or combative. I have removed Mater’s comments on this blog and others because I do not feel they were contributing to the topic in a constructive manner.

]]> By: NCOZADD@aol.com http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1293 NCOZADD@aol.com Tue, 18 Sep 2007 17:36:45 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1293 Is your hubby also a Kansas City Wizards fan? Preki ended his professional soccer career while with them , playing full games into his 40's. he did much the same thing you are doing, especially when it comes to long-term training over a number of years.<br /> <br /> Having met Dora, I can testify that she is a wonderful little girl, beautiful, very bright, with a lot on her young plate. I can also testify to her now being in a home with a family who is real... normal, loving and nurturing.<br /> <br /> I am sorry that the school is obviously choosing their bottom line over the best interests of the child - all the while putting a benevolent cloak over it. Unfortunately, you are not the first parent to experience such ill behaviour, and sadly will not be the last. but if these experiences are discussed, people can become aware and tooled, and maybe those that need to can become more enlightened. Is your hubby also a Kansas City Wizards fan? Preki ended his professional soccer career while with them , playing full games into his 40’s. he did much the same thing you are doing, especially when it comes to long-term training over a number of years.

Having met Dora, I can testify that she is a wonderful little girl, beautiful, very bright, with a lot on her young plate. I can also testify to her now being in a home with a family who is real… normal, loving and nurturing.

I am sorry that the school is obviously choosing their bottom line over the best interests of the child – all the while putting a benevolent cloak over it. Unfortunately, you are not the first parent to experience such ill behaviour, and sadly will not be the last. but if these experiences are discussed, people can become aware and tooled, and maybe those that need to can become more enlightened.

]]> By: Nancy Spoolstra http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1292 Nancy Spoolstra Tue, 18 Sep 2007 15:52:44 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1292 We have temporary guardianship of her right now, but her parents still have legal responsibility. This kind of arrangement happens all the time in all kinds of situations. No social workers are involved, as there is no reason at this moment for them to be involved. No abuse or neglect allegations have been made, and no adoption petition has been filed as yet ... therefore there is no need for a GAL, SW, TPR hearing or any such thing. If/when we move forward with adoption, a SW will be involved, as well as an ICPC (interstate compact placement agreement); our homestudy will be updated, etc. We have temporary guardianship of her right now, but her parents still have legal responsibility. This kind of arrangement happens all the time in all kinds of situations. No social workers are involved, as there is no reason at this moment for them to be involved. No abuse or neglect allegations have been made, and no adoption petition has been filed as yet … therefore there is no need for a GAL, SW, TPR hearing or any such thing. If/when we move forward with adoption, a SW will be involved, as well as an ICPC (interstate compact placement agreement); our homestudy will be updated, etc.

]]> By: Petronella http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1291 Petronella Tue, 18 Sep 2007 15:44:40 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1291 Who has legal custody of Dora right now? Is it still her parents, or is she a ward of the court? If her parents have relinquished their parental rights or been TPR'd, does she have a social worker and/or a GAL?<br /> <br /> Whoever her legal guardian is, are they aware that she is living in an unrelated person's house, who is not a licensed foster parent(I assume), and not attending school?<br /> <br /> I'm just curious as to how these things work in adoption disruptions.<br /> Thanks Nancy. I do believe that you want only what is best for this little girl. Who has legal custody of Dora right now? Is it still her parents, or is she a ward of the court? If her parents have relinquished their parental rights or been TPR’d, does she have a social worker and/or a GAL?

Whoever her legal guardian is, are they aware that she is living in an unrelated person’s house, who is not a licensed foster parent(I assume), and not attending school?

I’m just curious as to how these things work in adoption disruptions.
Thanks Nancy. I do believe that you want only what is best for this little girl.

]]> By: Sunbonnet Sue http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do/comment-page-1#comment-1290 Sunbonnet Sue Tue, 18 Sep 2007 14:26:08 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/18/aging-athletes-and-tired-parents-what-do#comment-1290 Very wise Hubby. Together, you two are a great team.<br /> <br /> Whizzers on the school. One more lovely example of funding/business over education and best interests of the child. Very wise Hubby. Together, you two are a great team.

Whizzers on the school. One more lovely example of funding/business over education and best interests of the child.

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