While all the controversy was swirling around Sandra these past few weeks, I have been spotty in my blogging and certainly not controversial. Not that I can’t be … it’s just that most of my energy has gone towards getting through the day. I’m still not 100% well. I called the doc today about my productive cough and general inability to completely shake this whatever-it-is. Hopefully I’ll be operating at full throttle here shortly—thanks for your patience!


We did manage to get out of the house yesterday for Father’s Day. Next post I'm going to tell you about a fabulous Father's Day sermon we heard. But first I want to mention something else ...


I didn’t receive a phone call from Amy on Mother’s Day. I saw her the Thursday before Mother's Day at a high school choir concert when I was there on behalf of our foreign exchange student. Amy was there with a friend. Amy said she was “working on Mother’s Day and wouldn’t be able to call me.” I wrote about it and requested feedback about one aspect of that conversation ... Amy's belief that she was invited on our family vacation to Colorado that occurred a couple of weeks ago. (She didn't go ...)


I did receive a phone call from Tommy earlier that week, but he, too informed me he “might not be able to call me on Mother’s Day.” He didn’t.


So I pondered in this post if Amy would call her dad on Father’s Day? She did. She told him she was working an 11 hour day but called during her break. Guess she didn’t get breaks on Mother’s Day. Tommy also called my husband yesterday.


So, why does this bug me so much? The truth is, Amy is probably being more honest in NOT calling me than in calling me. I do think it is an avoidance thing, but I also think she is sending a message, even though my husband doesn’t think she plans stuff like that.


Tommy’s call was just a little more salt in the wound … I’m really not sure how he views either of us at this point.


What I am most surprised about was how much this whole situation registered on me. I put out far more direct effort on my daughter’s behalf than my husband did. I also have a very accurate picture of what Amy and I do and don’t have in terms of a relationship. It really isn’t an intellectual surprise that she didn’t call me but did call her dad.


So why does it bug me so much?


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