(Seventh in a series)

When I asked Foster about calling Russ Colburn for his comments as well, Foster was not sure Russ would want to be involved about articles in attachment anymore because...

the issues around attachment therapy are easily criticized; angry, negative people are vocal, often adept at stirring things up, vilifying those they never even met—while those who are satisfied and have been helped get on with their quiet, effective, and functional lives.

Foster travels the United States and the world writing and talking about Parenting with Love and Logic, which he first wrote about and founded with Jim Fay. He describes Love and Logic as...

universally applicable, easy and extremely practical. The nice thing about Love and Logic is that it is so quickly and easily effective that it simply can't be controversial.

Further explaining his uncertainty about Russ’s interest in the topic of attachment, Foster states:

Even for me, I have had some grief and shake my head in wonder about the nonsense and venom on the internet about me, attachment therapy, etc. It’s like, why go through that grief? Life is just too short. I talk all over the world about my passion for Love and Logic, and how Love and Logic works for most kids, and let that whole other world of treating disturbed kids go its own (to my way of thinking, often ineffective) way, because the climate in the United States right now does not accept the non-medication alternatives that are necessary, in my opinion, to reach the truly severely disturbed. At this point, those kids often simply end up in jail. They can be medicated, and I think they can be treated in institutions, but as far as being quickly and effectively reached psychologically, I don’t think America is willing to risk getting soul to soul tightly involved in the rageful feelings of super-disturbed kids. I just don’t think that’s where we’re at right now, and I don’t feel like there is anything any one person can do about it.

He then restated his belief that…

If something is true and it is good, it will be rediscovered. No sense fighting the swing of the pendulum, I don’t think.

At this point, I referred back to one of his original comments about having such mixed feelings about his involvement in attachment work, and how he valued the ongoing contact he had with people who were significantly helped by these techniques. I pointed out how many people he had impacted that he had never met.