Sometime soon, I am scheduled to talk to yet another mom about disruption. This mom needs support after the fact. Some families need support in making a decision. Some have already decided to move forward with disruption and need assistance about how to make it happen, and then they need post-disruption support. I have had personal experience with disruption, on both sides of the equation. My family has both disrupted a placement and adopted a child who disrupted from her first placement (Beth). I have acted as a conduit for over a dozen children who were in need of alternate placements, and hardly a week goes by that someone doesn’t email me about something having to do with disruption.


Over the years, many children in need of new families have crossed my path, and with the exception of Beth and Tyler, a young man we kept for three months, I have not been tempted to integrate any of them into my family. Tyler was in imminent danger in his home, and it was prudent to move him promptly. We did so with the idea of scoping him out for our family. He is a really fine young man, but he needed more “remediation” than I was willing or able to provide at that time in my life, so I found him another family. He is very happy and doing quite well in that home, I am happy to say.


When I wrote a post about a week ago asking if any of you would adopt again if given an opportunity, I must confess to having ulterior motives. I am being given that opportunity, and my family is pursuing it.


It started “normally” enough, with a mom emailing me in need of advice and assistance for her family. Due to circumstances out of the control of this family, combined with difficult behaviors exhibited by the child, they are in need of a placement for their child. Out of deference to the child and the family—who are clearly in a state of upheaval right now and will remain so for quite some time—I am not going to state any particulars about the child just yet. Suffice it to say, this child might fit well in my family.


Next up, I’ll tell you how this has unfolded …


The ugly "D" word--Disruption

Disruption and underground networks
Part Two
Part Three

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