http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/lab-rats-and-guinea-pigs Addresses challenges faced by parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder and provides news and support. Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:16:58 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/lab-rats-and-guinea-pigs/comment-page-1#comment-1007 paulukon Tue, 27 Nov 2007 14:24:48 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/26/lab-rats-and-guinea-pigs#comment-1007 Nancy, one thing I'm afraid of is that they will stifle you. And that means they still have control over you. You should not give them control. It's a fine line, however, and I don't know how you balance it all. Oh, here's an idea--you also have experiences you know about with other RAD kids (and adults). Maybe when you are tempted to write about A or T, you can draw upon those experiences as well and make things more composite. Lump them all together and give them a name, like Sam. "Dora reminded me of Sam yesterday. X happened." And we'll not know if X was something A did, T did, or some other kid you've known or heard about. (The beauty of a name like Sam is that it can be a he or a she. So if you don't like Sam, you could use Kelly or Pat or ....) Nancy, one thing I’m afraid of is that they will stifle you. And that means they still have control over you. You should not give them control. It’s a fine line, however, and I don’t know how you balance it all. Oh, here’s an idea–you also have experiences you know about with other RAD kids (and adults). Maybe when you are tempted to write about A or T, you can draw upon those experiences as well and make things more composite. Lump them all together and give them a name, like Sam. “Dora reminded me of Sam yesterday. X happened.” And we’ll not know if X was something A did, T did, or some other kid you’ve known or heard about. (The beauty of a name like Sam is that it can be a he or a she. So if you don’t like Sam, you could use Kelly or Pat or ….)

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