Beth has swim practice three to four nights a week. The location of her practices just changed for the summer … they are at a high school further north. As we were driving there tonight, I wondered out loud about whether there were some other families we could carpool with …


Beth informed me she isn’t comfortable in other people’s cars. “I guess I still have some trust issues!” she said.


When she first brought this up early in the conversation, I said she would probably be fine if she rode a few times with the other person. She disagreed. And then she went on to name the handful of other times she has gone with friends and their parents to other places. She said she is always stressed and tense about it.


We have a very good friend and neighbor and we carpool with them to school all the time. Apparently she isn’t even completely comfortable in their car. Especially when the dad drives. OK, I get that more … but my neighbor is kind of like another mom to her.


I’m not arguing that she has these feelings, or even that she shouldn’t … just processing how encompassing they are. She wants me and me only, apparently. Even her own DAD didn’t get a clear billing. (She hastened to tell me not to tell Dad. No worries, he doesn’t read my blog!)


I don’t mind driving her to swim practice every night. I like the time with her. Some times this summer Stephanie will. Wonder how Steph rates? I just think it is incredibly cool that Beth tells me these things. And even more cool that she understands and can articulate what she is feeling. And as we all know, you don't get to pick your feelings!


Side bar here … Kyle phoned Amy last weekend while he and Marie were here, and Amy joined them to walk the Par 3 golf course that they didn’t end up playing because of rain. So I guess they sat in the clubhouse and talked. Well, sort of. Amy didn't have much to say ... Amy doesn’t call here at all, so I have no clue what is happening with her. Can’t say I’m dwelling on it, either. Apparently she hasn’t made any arrangements yet for her last few months at her apartment and/or her plans to move elsewhere. Guess we’ll see what happens … Talk about trust issues!

Here's a great article about post adoption issues.

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