As I mentioned in my previous post, Kyle and Marie spent the weekend with us. Kyle is on the receiving end of communication from Amy, although he is admonished not to share some of what she tells him. She doesn’t want us to know the location of where she lives, but did tell him to tell us she is “safe” and she is living with a friend and the friend’s husband and their two-year-old son. She is apparently paying rent and contributing to grocery money. The location is a long way from her job and she is dependent upon her host (who also works at the same fast food place) for transportation. When they work the same shift, that is not a problem, but according to Amy, this won’t be the case for long. She moved out of the apartment some time the end of last week.


She didn’t appreciate our home, the duplex, or her nice apartment, but I’m guessing she’s finding these accommodations a bit different in many ways. At least in her last two domiciles, she had lots of private time and personal space. Now she has no such options.


She also mentioned something to Kyle about “not knowing how the holidays will play out …” My husband said he would be happy to take her out for a meal with the rest of the family. I have no plans to chase her down for the holidays.


She is still “an item” with her boyfriend, but I don’t believe he is physically here.


I also want to respond to my dear friend Pat’s comment as posted here … She kindly but firmly chastised me for “wronging” Amy when I spoke to her boyfriend. I have done a great deal of thinking about this. Had this young man’s mom not appealed to me, I wouldn’t have become involved, but I learned the boldfaced lies Amy was telling him, and some of those were quite offensive to me and her dad. I also would have really struggled with not sharing what I knew and having this mom, who point-blank asked for my opinion, take Amy into her home and deal with the fallout from that … on top of her cancer reappearance. To add yet another major insult to this family, Kyle learned in his conversation last weekend that this young man’s sister is one of four missing crew members of a presumably highjacked boat in Miami. This happened during the same week this mom called me … so what if I had done nothing and this woman’s son had become more embroiled … and right now this ill mom is in Florida fighting for custody of her grandkids. The very last thing she needs is Amy further muddying the waters.


Lastly, as much as it pains me to say this, if there were any trust between Amy and me, I would be more inclined to agree with Pat, but there isn’t. There isn’t much of a "relationship" to damage. Amy has lied to me and about me for as long as I can remember. All that I have left in this "relationship" is my own integrity and the defense of my healthy family members. I simply could not stand by and watch Amy lie and manipulate her way into this already wounded family. Neither choice was a happy one … but I stand by the one I made. (I do appreciate the feedback, though ...)



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