Comments on: Parents can be stuck just like the kids

By: m2000

m2000 — Sat, 27 Jan 2007 06:23:38 +0000

I’m so glad I read this tonight. In her book (Katherine Leslie) she outlines the similarities between what battered wives experience and what parents of children with AD go through…this is so “me” all the way.

Thank you for the gentle and kind reminder, Nancy…and for getting Dr. Leslie to join in on your quest to support “us”.

By: Nancy Cozadd

Nancy Cozadd — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 20:39:38 +0000

This commentary is so right on…. abuse is abuse, whether or not the effects are physical.

We can love our AD kids unconditionally, but that doesn’t mean that we need be vicitms of their behaviour.

This blog – and other forms of support – are affirming, encouraging and empowering.

By: Julie

Julie — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 16:52:52 +0000

Yep – Katherine nailed it — helplessness…that’s the piece that traumatizes me. Having NO CHOICE (or at least not any that are palatable to me) — Parent a very disturbed child, now homeschool her while not cutting your income and increasing your expenditures AND mounting a court case against the school district.

Guess I “decided” to do all these things – but I feel rather helpless…PTSD!

By: Cindy Bodie

Cindy Bodie — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 16:30:05 +0000

Hmmmmmmmm, a lot to think about.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 16:27:11 +0000

Thanks to both Nancy & Katharine Leslie for this series. I can see myself in what Katharine describes. I’m “stuck” in the PTSD caused by years of living a son who is abusive to me.

By: kburch

kburch — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 16:21:44 +0000

I hardly know what to say other than “Wow.” I know as someone who is trying desperately to claw my way out of a giant rut I let myself fall into, “stuck” is a very accurate word. It is hard not to let my life be all about how the kids are doing, especially since I am a stay-at-home mom right now. It is important to hear that it really is okay for there to be “something else” that takes up my time and energy. Thank you for posting this, and again, Wow.