Comments on: Point Counterpoint http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1 Addresses challenges faced by parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder and provides news and support. Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:13:41 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: NCOZADD@aol.com http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-1006 NCOZADD@aol.com Mon, 26 Nov 2007 16:27:46 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-1006 {{{{Nancy}}}} Processing is always a work in progress, and it may take a long time for you to really digest what you have been experiencing of late.<br /> <br /> We all know that some people operate by their own rules.<br /> <br /> You put your whole heart into people, so burn-out is completely understandable. What you are doing is for a good cause, one that you have been commited to for a long, long time. However, the cause is not worth the price of your health and well-being. You have some other, more important, priorities in your home right now. {{{{Nancy}}}} Processing is always a work in progress, and it may take a long time for you to really digest what you have been experiencing of late.

We all know that some people operate by their own rules.

You put your whole heart into people, so burn-out is completely understandable. What you are doing is for a good cause, one that you have been commited to for a long, long time. However, the cause is not worth the price of your health and well-being. You have some other, more important, priorities in your home right now.

]]> By: NCOZADD@aol.com http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-1005 NCOZADD@aol.com Mon, 26 Nov 2007 16:10:18 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-1005 Oh, MamaS, you summed up what I was going to say about my son!<br /> <br /> He does not contact us unless he wants something. He will be entering the military soon, starting Boot Camp within days, and that is something his family would like to support and share in. But the only contact we have had lately is an e-mail expecting to see us for his graduation in Texas ( we live in Missouri) without regard to the time or financial restraints of the trip. But he plans on shipping his stuff out to us, because the people he is currently living with do not want it, so we can bring it to Texas with us. Oh, MamaS, you summed up what I was going to say about my son!

He does not contact us unless he wants something. He will be entering the military soon, starting Boot Camp within days, and that is something his family would like to support and share in. But the only contact we have had lately is an e-mail expecting to see us for his graduation in Texas ( we live in Missouri) without regard to the time or financial restraints of the trip. But he plans on shipping his stuff out to us, because the people he is currently living with do not want it, so we can bring it to Texas with us.

]]> By: Nancy Spoolstra http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-1004 Nancy Spoolstra Mon, 26 Nov 2007 15:55:28 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-1004 Financially it is highly advantageous for me to write another 10 blogs this week. For December, however, I may just do that! Financially it is highly advantageous for me to write another 10 blogs this week. For December, however, I may just do that!

]]> By: AngelaW http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-1003 AngelaW Mon, 26 Nov 2007 15:42:08 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-1003 I would suggest taking a blog vacation too. <br /> <br /> Hugs to you.... I would suggest taking a blog vacation too.

Hugs to you….

]]> By: Chromesthesia http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-1002 Chromesthesia Mon, 26 Nov 2007 13:47:11 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-1002 I wish you could take a vacation or something. I know what it's like having stomach issues and stuff from stress. Plus I grind my teeth and have TMJ. You have a lot more on you.<br /> I wish you could get away from it all and just collect yourself...<br /> Take care, your whole family. I wish you could take a vacation or something. I know what it’s like having stomach issues and stuff from stress. Plus I grind my teeth and have TMJ. You have a lot more on you.
I wish you could get away from it all and just collect yourself…
Take care, your whole family.

]]> By: Cynthia http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-1001 Cynthia Mon, 26 Nov 2007 13:03:49 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-1001 Nancy,<br /> Can you take a week-long vacation from blogging? It seems like this whole thing needs to calm down and you need some rest and some perspective. Diving into it over and over is only going to tire you out more and probably fan the flames that have started up recently thanks to some post weeks ago by "sweet12", and at this point we're not even sure who that original flamer was. Just a thought. Nancy,
Can you take a week-long vacation from blogging? It seems like this whole thing needs to calm down and you need some rest and some perspective. Diving into it over and over is only going to tire you out more and probably fan the flames that have started up recently thanks to some post weeks ago by “sweet12″, and at this point we’re not even sure who that original flamer was. Just a thought.

]]> By: fenyimom http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-1000 fenyimom Mon, 26 Nov 2007 11:04:39 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-1000 Tommy and Amy had their chances. You have made it clear that you are burning out fast. Dora and Beth need to be your primary focus right now. Can you continue to expend energy on Tommy and Amy, and still give Dora and Beth what they need? Tommy and Amy had their chances. You have made it clear that you are burning out fast. Dora and Beth need to be your primary focus right now. Can you continue to expend energy on Tommy and Amy, and still give Dora and Beth what they need?

]]> By: MamaS http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-999 MamaS Mon, 26 Nov 2007 09:13:24 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-999 'The thing is … being "open to phone calls" means he would call me and talk about himself and ask for me to fix things and there would be no part of this “relationship” that would be beneficial or rewarding to me.'<br /> That one sentence summed up my relationship with my daughter. She always wondered why, when I answered 'hello' and heard her voice my next question was 'What do you want?' How did I know she wanted something? Because that is the only reason she ever called! Now I don't feel so guilty that my heart didn't just 'bound with happiness' when I heard her voice. Thank you. ‘The thing is … being “open to phone calls” means he would call me and talk about himself and ask for me to fix things and there would be no part of this “relationship” that would be beneficial or rewarding to me.’
That one sentence summed up my relationship with my daughter. She always wondered why, when I answered ‘hello’ and heard her voice my next question was ‘What do you want?’ How did I know she wanted something? Because that is the only reason she ever called! Now I don’t feel so guilty that my heart didn’t just ‘bound with happiness’ when I heard her voice. Thank you.

]]> By: Nancy Spoolstra http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-998 Nancy Spoolstra Mon, 26 Nov 2007 05:15:06 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-998 Yes, I am positive. As the blog writer, I can see their email addresses. Yes, I am positive. As the blog writer, I can see their email addresses.

]]> By: bumblebeeskies http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/point-counterpoint-1/comment-page-1#comment-997 bumblebeeskies Mon, 26 Nov 2007 05:13:29 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/25/point-counterpoint-1#comment-997 Nancy,<br /> <br /> Are you positive that these comments are really from Amy and Tommy? They just seem to be really "out of the blue." I could see them saying something, if you had been blogging about them recently, but you haven't. I read your blog regularly, and I have not ever read much about Tommy, and it's been quite a while since you said anything more than a "comment in passing" about Amy. Nancy,

Are you positive that these comments are really from Amy and Tommy? They just seem to be really “out of the blue.” I could see them saying something, if you had been blogging about them recently, but you haven’t. I read your blog regularly, and I have not ever read much about Tommy, and it’s been quite a while since you said anything more than a “comment in passing” about Amy.

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