Comments on: Seeing the Big Picture http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/seeing-the-big-picture Addresses challenges faced by parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder and provides news and support. Sun, 21 Mar 2010 08:17:03 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Nancy Spoolstra http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/seeing-the-big-picture/comment-page-1#comment-2528 Nancy Spoolstra Wed, 12 Dec 2007 18:32:02 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/11/seeing-the-big-picture#comment-2528 Bipette, seeing his bio mom might "set him back" on the short run, but I don't believe he can avoid that meeting, and ultimately I think it will be a plus for you. Don't feel like you are in any kind of competition. Allow him to feel whatever he feels and validate his feelings. Do less talking and more listening; don't pry. And please keep us posted. I'm SO glad he's doing well!!! Bipette, seeing his bio mom might “set him back” on the short run, but I don’t believe he can avoid that meeting, and ultimately I think it will be a plus for you. Don’t feel like you are in any kind of competition. Allow him to feel whatever he feels and validate his feelings. Do less talking and more listening; don’t pry. And please keep us posted. I’m SO glad he’s doing well!!!

]]> By: Bippette http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/seeing-the-big-picture/comment-page-1#comment-2527 Bippette Wed, 12 Dec 2007 18:06:18 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/11/seeing-the-big-picture#comment-2527 Nancy - I haven't posted about J in a long time, but he's doing GREAT! He passed the schools UA last week, he's wrestling, treating me well. He sees his Mother on Dec 23rd for the first time since she left him. And I'm afraid that's going to set him back. But right now we are doing good! Nancy – I haven’t posted about J in a long time, but he’s doing GREAT! He passed the schools UA last week, he’s wrestling, treating me well.

He sees his Mother on Dec 23rd for the first time since she left him. And I’m afraid that’s going to set him back. But right now we are doing good!

]]> By: Bippette http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/seeing-the-big-picture/comment-page-1#comment-2526 Bippette Wed, 12 Dec 2007 18:04:56 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/11/seeing-the-big-picture#comment-2526 Sigh. I was just posting about this on the Adopting the Older Child Forum where someone was challenging my parenting techiniques.<br /> <br /> I guess its impossible to understand unless you are going through it.<br /> <br /> Here's <a href="http://forums.adoption.com/older-child-adoption/319625-story-my-son-jumping-hood-my-car.html">the link.</a> Sigh. I was just posting about this on the Adopting the Older Child Forum where someone was challenging my parenting techiniques.

I guess its impossible to understand unless you are going through it.

Here’s the link.

]]> By: Lindy http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/seeing-the-big-picture/comment-page-1#comment-2525 Lindy Wed, 12 Dec 2007 04:39:22 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/12/11/seeing-the-big-picture#comment-2525 I agree that one must experience living with an attachment- challenged child to truly feel the total lack of understanding from others. Being constantly judged and second guessed by the very people who are supposed to love and support you can make you feel like dirt...as if you don't already feel horrible because you can't seem to move your child forward in any positive way. If you just loved them more, understood them more, gave them more freedom.....give me a break. Walk in my shoes for five minutes and you would have a little different take on things. We do need to support one another and let these families know that they are not alone. We may not have answers for them, but we can certainly offer a sympathetic ear and an understanding heart. I agree that one must experience living with an attachment- challenged child to truly feel the total lack of understanding from others. Being constantly judged and second guessed by the very people who are supposed to love and support you can make you feel like dirt…as if you don’t already feel horrible because you can’t seem to move your child forward in any positive way. If you just loved them more, understood them more, gave them more freedom…..give me a break. Walk in my shoes for five minutes and you would have a little different take on things. We do need to support one another and let these families know that they are not alone. We may not have answers for them, but we can certainly offer a sympathetic ear and an understanding heart.

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