Comments on: The Circle of Families … thinking outside of the box! http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside Addresses challenges faced by parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder and provides news and support. Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:16:58 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: CREAMPUFF_SUGAR http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside/comment-page-1#comment-1968 CREAMPUFF_SUGAR Thu, 07 Feb 2008 16:25:19 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/02/06/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside#comment-1968 The difficulty is finding a family that is on board with you. I know issues my children have are not apparent to most and I found that even when traveling on a mission trip in a separate car from my husband and my son, I didn't see all the behaviours or notice them. I have found a family, but they are states away. Still, my friend is willing to fly out here (as she has three older and healthy bios, as well) and be with me when my husband is gone on a business trip. If she and her family lived closer, we could do what you are suggesting, but I would NEVER do it as part of a program. I believe this is something, for me, I would seek out on my own because as much as people want to help, sometimes they are more of deteriment, even if they have their own RAD kids. The difficulty is finding a family that is on board with you. I know issues my children have are not apparent to most and I found that even when traveling on a mission trip in a separate car from my husband and my son, I didn’t see all the behaviours or notice them. I have found a family, but they are states away. Still, my friend is willing to fly out here (as she has three older and healthy bios, as well) and be with me when my husband is gone on a business trip. If she and her family lived closer, we could do what you are suggesting, but I would NEVER do it as part of a program. I believe this is something, for me, I would seek out on my own because as much as people want to help, sometimes they are more of deteriment, even if they have their own RAD kids.

]]> By: Bippette http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside/comment-page-1#comment-1967 Bippette Thu, 07 Feb 2008 06:14:43 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/02/06/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside#comment-1967 Some comments on Andrew's thoughts on Foster Care.<br /> <br /> 1.) My personal experience with Foster Care in OK has shown a high percentage of Foster parents who do for the money. And those are generally homes that provide bad care.<br /> <br /> 2.) I believe that once your parental rights are terminated, you should be fixed. The mother of my two sibs has 4 others and she's only 26. She has care of none of them. how many more will she create and abandon. It would interesting to look at the statistics on how many fewer damaged children would be brought into this world if that rule was followed.<br /> <br /> 3.) I think Birth Parents should have 6-12 months to fix the problems. And if they can do that then automatic termination should happen and the kids placed for adoption.<br /> <br /> 4. The second time a child comes into care, it should be automatic termination of rights.<br /> <br /> The system needs to stop thinking about the best interests of the birth parents and start thinking about the best interests of the CHILD. Some comments on Andrew’s thoughts on Foster Care.

1.) My personal experience with Foster Care in OK has shown a high percentage of Foster parents who do for the money. And those are generally homes that provide bad care.

2.) I believe that once your parental rights are terminated, you should be fixed. The mother of my two sibs has 4 others and she’s only 26. She has care of none of them. how many more will she create and abandon. It would interesting to look at the statistics on how many fewer damaged children would be brought into this world if that rule was followed.

3.) I think Birth Parents should have 6-12 months to fix the problems. And if they can do that then automatic termination should happen and the kids placed for adoption.

4. The second time a child comes into care, it should be automatic termination of rights.

The system needs to stop thinking about the best interests of the birth parents and start thinking about the best interests of the CHILD.

]]> By: Lindy http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside/comment-page-1#comment-1966 Lindy Thu, 07 Feb 2008 00:40:59 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/02/06/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside#comment-1966 I have to believe that the child will very rarly "stop the rotation" on his own. Most of these kids do not bond with their respective families. I think that the exposure to a family environment that has not been "burned out" by the child would be so beneficial to all concerned. Each family involved would have something valuable to give without having to reach down so far in their emotional banks that they have very little left to give. I would be interested in learning more about this concept. I have to believe that the child will very rarly “stop the rotation” on his own. Most of these kids do not bond with their respective families. I think that the exposure to a family environment that has not been “burned out” by the child would be so beneficial to all concerned. Each family involved would have something valuable to give without having to reach down so far in their emotional banks that they have very little left to give. I would be interested in learning more about this concept.

]]> By: my2rubies http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside/comment-page-1#comment-1965 my2rubies Wed, 06 Feb 2008 23:57:39 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/02/06/the-circle-of-families-thinking-outside#comment-1965 Interesting. So does each participating family have to be willing to "the" family chosen when the child decides to stop the rotation? Interesting. So does each participating family have to be willing to “the” family chosen when the child decides to stop the rotation?

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