Comments on: Trauma impacts everyone http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-impacts-everyone Addresses challenges faced by parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder and provides news and support. Sun, 21 Feb 2010 00:35:39 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Sunbonnet Sue http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-impacts-everyone/comment-page-1#comment-1717 Sunbonnet Sue Tue, 16 Oct 2007 15:59:34 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/15/trauma-impacts-everyone#comment-1717 We recently watched the Ken Burns PBS documentary on WWII. Lots of good info there. Our experience with traumatized children left us feeling like we'd been left on the Phillippine Islands, while McArthur slipped out silently across the ocean. <br /> <br /> One of my boys recently watched a movie with friends called, "Reign Over Me." Our son was so touched by this movie, he rented it, then sat his Dad and me down to watch it yesterday afternoon.<br /> <br /> The movie stars Adam Sandler in an uncharacteristicaly dramatic role. He does an outstanding job of portraying a man suffering from severe PTSD, it is worth watching. The movie does a good job of showing how the main character is able to reach back to more stable times, reconnect with old friends, and begin to claw his way out from the hole he's dug into. It also touches on how the legal and psychiatric system works against recovery. Also portrayed is how injurious people can be sometimes.<br /> <br /> I sometimes read nice stories comparing parenting traumatized children as being like trips to Italy, or Holland, or Iceland. I get those comparisons. yes. but when I hear moms talking about how their journey is like a war, then I know they have shared my experience. For our family, it was like getting dropped into the middle of Iraq, with no knowledge of, preparation for, or tools to use. We did not speak the language. Or know the rules of engagement. The cultural norms were hidden. <br /> <br /> chrome said it well. trauma doesn't go away. It kind of festers, and morphs and grows. our culture needs to get a grip and learn to manage and direct the path of that trauma. because it's going to come around and bite us in the rear. We recently watched the Ken Burns PBS documentary on WWII. Lots of good info there. Our experience with traumatized children left us feeling like we’d been left on the Phillippine Islands, while McArthur slipped out silently across the ocean.

One of my boys recently watched a movie with friends called, “Reign Over Me.” Our son was so touched by this movie, he rented it, then sat his Dad and me down to watch it yesterday afternoon.

The movie stars Adam Sandler in an uncharacteristicaly dramatic role. He does an outstanding job of portraying a man suffering from severe PTSD, it is worth watching. The movie does a good job of showing how the main character is able to reach back to more stable times, reconnect with old friends, and begin to claw his way out from the hole he’s dug into. It also touches on how the legal and psychiatric system works against recovery. Also portrayed is how injurious people can be sometimes.

I sometimes read nice stories comparing parenting traumatized children as being like trips to Italy, or Holland, or Iceland. I get those comparisons. yes. but when I hear moms talking about how their journey is like a war, then I know they have shared my experience. For our family, it was like getting dropped into the middle of Iraq, with no knowledge of, preparation for, or tools to use. We did not speak the language. Or know the rules of engagement. The cultural norms were hidden.

chrome said it well. trauma doesn’t go away. It kind of festers, and morphs and grows. our culture needs to get a grip and learn to manage and direct the path of that trauma. because it’s going to come around and bite us in the rear.

]]> By: Chromesthesia http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-impacts-everyone/comment-page-1#comment-1716 Chromesthesia Tue, 16 Oct 2007 13:58:25 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/15/trauma-impacts-everyone#comment-1716 Trauma never really goes away, there's still some in the world from events that happened ages ago shaping families and individuals.<br /> I wonder how people who came from fighting wars in the past felt, especially Japanese soldiers after ww2. It has nothing to do with this, but you got to wonder how war shapes people and their families decades after it happened. Trauma never really goes away, there’s still some in the world from events that happened ages ago shaping families and individuals.
I wonder how people who came from fighting wars in the past felt, especially Japanese soldiers after ww2. It has nothing to do with this, but you got to wonder how war shapes people and their families decades after it happened.

]]> By: mmarschner http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-impacts-everyone/comment-page-1#comment-1715 mmarschner Tue, 16 Oct 2007 10:27:36 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/15/trauma-impacts-everyone#comment-1715 It's getting harder for me to escape situations where I recognize trauma too. Once people realize you understand...they come to you because not many people will listen. And you so tune into people and situations becuase you live it Nancy.<br /> <br /> Hope your finger is feeling better!<br /> <br /> That vet. story is so sad. It’s getting harder for me to escape situations where I recognize trauma too. Once people realize you understand…they come to you because not many people will listen. And you so tune into people and situations becuase you live it Nancy.

Hope your finger is feeling better!

That vet. story is so sad.

]]> By: breenjeans http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-impacts-everyone/comment-page-1#comment-1714 breenjeans Tue, 16 Oct 2007 04:54:06 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/10/15/trauma-impacts-everyone#comment-1714 Just getting used to this site, but wanted to say hi to nancy. It was wonderful meeting her on the plane and am looking forward to getting to know her better. I probably wouldn't have made it through the conference as well as I did without her. Unfortunately, there didn't seem to be many "Just Parents" there to bond with.<br /> <br /> Hi to Lorraine, Julie, Becker, and Tricia, too!<br /> <br /> Julie-I'm working on that contender thing!!:0) Just getting used to this site, but wanted to say hi to nancy. It was wonderful meeting her on the plane and am looking forward to getting to know her better. I probably wouldn’t have made it through the conference as well as I did without her. Unfortunately, there didn’t seem to be many “Just Parents” there to bond with.

Hi to Lorraine, Julie, Becker, and Tricia, too!

Julie-I’m working on that contender thing!!:0)

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