Comments on: Trauma’s Impact on the Family http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family Addresses challenges faced by parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder and provides news and support. Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:16:58 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: amston http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family/comment-page-1#comment-1737 amston Sat, 29 Aug 2009 14:10:29 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/31/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family#comment-1737 We adopted our 16 year old daughter when she was 12. I never understood why we can't ever "fill her up" with love, fun times or "stuff". After her old social worker suggested I research RAD I discovered this site. Please tell me where I can find information on parenting teens with RAD. I am exhausted and frustrated. We adopted our 16 year old daughter when she was 12. I never understood why we can’t ever “fill her up” with love, fun times or “stuff”. After her old social worker suggested I research RAD I discovered this site. Please tell me where I can find information on parenting teens with RAD. I am exhausted and frustrated.

]]> By: mike@rad-online http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family/comment-page-1#comment-1736 mike@rad-online Fri, 07 Aug 2009 00:06:02 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/31/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family#comment-1736 @Running<br /> There is no such thing as a perfect parent as you know.<br /> <br /> Your doing a great job, and you WILL be rewarded because of whats happening in your family right now. Stay the course, no matter how hard it gets. Your child will thank you one day. And then it will all seem worth it.<br /> <br /> Michael @Running
There is no such thing as a perfect parent as you know.

Your doing a great job, and you WILL be rewarded because of whats happening in your family right now. Stay the course, no matter how hard it gets. Your child will thank you one day. And then it will all seem worth it.

Michael

]]> By: reginak http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family/comment-page-1#comment-1735 reginak Mon, 22 Dec 2008 01:13:09 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/31/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family#comment-1735 Arleta James has a book coming ut soon about the effects of a child with issues on typically developing children Arleta James has a book coming ut soon about the effects of a child with issues on typically developing children

]]> By: runningncircles http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family/comment-page-1#comment-1734 runningncircles Tue, 18 Nov 2008 20:42:39 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/31/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family#comment-1734 I adopted a child through Foster Care that is my "presumed" nephew. I went into it with all of my heart, not realizing that love is not always enough. My son has recently been diagnosed with RAD and has turned our household upside down. I have a biological son that is 15 months older. I am now riddled with guilt for disrupting his peace and harmony in the household. While they are extremely close, when the younger one gets in his "mood" (which is almost daily) he either takes it out on me or his brother. I thought I was the only one going through this and that as hard as I tried to be a perfect parent, it wasn't good enough for the youngest one. It is a breath of fresh air to see others are going through similiar situations. I adopted a child through Foster Care that is my “presumed” nephew. I went into it with all of my heart, not realizing that love is not always enough. My son has recently been diagnosed with RAD and has turned our household upside down. I have a biological son that is 15 months older. I am now riddled with guilt for disrupting his peace and harmony in the household. While they are extremely close, when the younger one gets in his “mood” (which is almost daily) he either takes it out on me or his brother. I thought I was the only one going through this and that as hard as I tried to be a perfect parent, it wasn’t good enough for the youngest one. It is a breath of fresh air to see others are going through similiar situations.

]]> By: jeanie1 http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family/comment-page-1#comment-1733 jeanie1 Mon, 03 Nov 2008 17:09:53 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/31/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family#comment-1733 I have to agree that traumatized children can really change the climate in a house! We adopted two children from the foster care system two years ago and I have been amazed at how they can push my buttons! I thought I was a patient person before they moved in. I'm glad we did so much research and soul searching before taking my kids, otherwise, I don't know if we would have survived. There is a free mini-course for parents considering adopting through the foster system that some people might find helpful at adoptioncounts.com Thanks for your post. I really needed that today!<br /> <br /> Jeanie<br /> <br /> Jeanie I have to agree that traumatized children can really change the climate in a house! We adopted two children from the foster care system two years ago and I have been amazed at how they can push my buttons! I thought I was a patient person before they moved in. I’m glad we did so much research and soul searching before taking my kids, otherwise, I don’t know if we would have survived. There is a free mini-course for parents considering adopting through the foster system that some people might find helpful at adoptioncounts.com Thanks for your post. I really needed that today!

Jeanie

Jeanie

]]> By: janetsummit http://attachment-disorder.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family/comment-page-1#comment-1732 janetsummit Sat, 01 Nov 2008 20:27:52 +0000 http://reactive-att.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/10/31/trauma-s-impact-on-the-family#comment-1732 Four of my 10 children are adopted. I wholeheartedly agree that it is important to take care of ourselves emotionally! There was a particularly critical point for me right after we had adopted three children, when I finally understood that understanding my emotions was the key. I found that as I learned about what I was feeling, why I felt that way, and what feelings are for, I changed inside. As I changed, my ability to help others improved, and they almost magically changed without anything else being different! Over the years I have realized that there are specific "principles" of emotions that are always true, and those have given me guidance when times are tough. <br /> <br /> I'm passionate about that subject, and have a website now devoted to teaching about emotions. Learning about emotions was the only reason my family was able to survive. I use these principles every single day.<br /> <br /> Janet Summit<br /> www.peacethroughprinciples.com Four of my 10 children are adopted. I wholeheartedly agree that it is important to take care of ourselves emotionally! There was a particularly critical point for me right after we had adopted three children, when I finally understood that understanding my emotions was the key. I found that as I learned about what I was feeling, why I felt that way, and what feelings are for, I changed inside. As I changed, my ability to help others improved, and they almost magically changed without anything else being different! Over the years I have realized that there are specific “principles” of emotions that are always true, and those have given me guidance when times are tough.

I’m passionate about that subject, and have a website now devoted to teaching about emotions. Learning about emotions was the only reason my family was able to survive. I use these principles every single day.

Janet Summit
http://www.peacethroughprinciples.com

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